As I was searching for a photo needed for my post “Never…Never…Part 3” inside the Dropbox folder, I found this buried inside the “Unsorted Folder” :
Well, obviously this belongs to one of the posts in 2014 (Share with Us @ Clouds N Cups) before moving over to this blog. If you lovely souls are interested in reading my past posts in that blog, don’t hesitate to click the link.
Phew! How time flies and when time is flying by so quickly, we may tend to lose track on what we’ve done in the past. Ahh…I do miss those prolific blogging days when I first started Clouds N Cups.
Reminisce is a dreamy way of saying “remember the past”. It is all about happy recollections and thinking back to stories from the past.
What a beautiful definition if you ask me.
This is just a short sharing with all you lovely souls out there — a blast from the past — and since I am strong believer of “Everything happens for a reason.”, I might just take this opportunity to reinstate my initial intent when comes to blogging.
When I was around thirteen or fourteen, Lovable Mom needed some crochet items which my Godmother knew how to make.
With thisrather-than-giving-you-a-fish-I-am-giving-you-the-rod mindset in her head, Lovable Mom asked me to learn crocheting from my Godmother instead of asking her to make it.
Since I’ve had bad experiences with using two needles, perhaps I might just do better with one needle.
SO…I TOOK THE CHALLENGE…
I MANAGED TO FINISH IT!
Although I had finished crocheting the item that Lovable Mom wanted, it was never up to her expectation(s).
“Tsk..Tsk…Tsk….your stitches are too tight.”
“The ruffle edges are supposed feel softer, just like the ones we had before.”
Despite getting all the steps correct, I was not able to control the tension of the yarn during crocheting.
I had become that very angry girl, once again!
It seemed that my brain and my fingers were not able to understand the word ‘consistency’ and this had proven to be a big problem for me.
Although Lovable Mom was very disappointed with the end products, I did try crocheting a few more sets over those years, thinking that perhaps more practices might just perfect my crocheting skill. Alas, all of them ended up having disappointing results.
Thus, I decided to stop crocheting and never to touch a piece of yarn again even when Lovable Mom asked me to make a few more during years later.
…*sob*sob*…Those ‘tension-filled’ crocheting experiences of mine…*sob*sob*…
I remembered learning knitting at the age of nine or ten and during that time, my mother had to look for those shops selling yarns in order to buy a set of yarns+needles for around $70++ meant for a sweater pattern.
Then I had to visit the shop every week to receive new instructions and assistance for the sweater…
I never even made it to finishing the base rows of the sweater!!
I was very angry, but mostly frustrated because it seemed that I just couldn’t get those stitches correct and when I FINALLY gotten those stitches correct, it was the problem with the tension of my stitches.
Every time I brought the finished piece back to the shop for further instructions, I was asked to redo the rows again and again…so many times until I decided to stop going.
Well, my mother was really mad at me for wasting $70++ on this unfinished project…and even after years later…when she spotted those untouched yarns during one of those annual spring cleaning…I would get nagged again…*sigh*….
One of the many definitions for the word “bad” is “of poor or inferior quality”. Experiencing a poor or inferior quality day (a.k.a. bad day) is no stranger to anyone of us and most of the time, it may appear to be something spontaneous.
Then again, if we were to take a deeper look into it, the contribution of having one bad day is just a cumulative effect of the different events – significant or insignificant – happening in our daily lives.
Before reading the rest of this post, let us watch a video to see if the Amazing Spider-Man is good at dealing with his bad day.
When encountering such a day, it is just like the lyrics in the song “Bad Day” by Daniel Powter –“Sometimes the system goes on the blink and the whole thing turns out wrong”.
The inner frustration sometimes may stop us from knowing what the best solution is in order to end this daylight nightmare.
As I was drafting this post, I suddenly remembered what my former boss used to tell me this:
“Now, ask yourself this, what could be worse than this? Deal with it!”
Well, despite he was the main contributor to many of my bad days at work, I am very thankful that he had instilled me with this mentality.
Okay, enough of my grumbling and let’s continue this post with the sharing of a short and yet inspiring story (Reaching Out – Bad Day by Anonymous)that I’ve stumbled upon:
In life, there is always this ironic feeling to learn that when things seem to be very complicated, maybe all it needs is just a simple solution.
A few months ago, I was intrigued by the remark “福兮,祸兮” the characters made whenever facing with good or bad situations in this drama about the first dowager (Miyue) in China .
These four Chinese characters actually originated from Tao Te Ching— “祸兮福所依,福兮祸所伏” (huò xī fú suǒ yǐ，fú xī huò suǒ fú)— whereby the character “祸” (huò) means “trouble” and “福” (fú) means “blessing”.
Literally, it means that a seemingly trouble might be a blessing in disguise and a blessing may just be a peaceful moment before the arrival or a hidden storm.
With this in mind, we must learn not to be too happy when good things are happening to us nor too sad when things tend to turn bad. Setting the irony of life aside, I guess there is always a lesson to be learnt behind every incident, no matter good or bad.
Last but not least, I would like to end this post with another sharing taken from Doctor ASKY to conclude today’s post:
Anger is among basic human emotions and a very complicated one. Although the real
purpose of anger is to help us defend ourselves, bad anger can be highly destructive even
if we are able to suppress for it might just turn into depression.
Usually, those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of “What Has Happened To Them”. Such explanations confirm the illusion that anger has a discrete external cause.
The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal
and controllable aspect of another person’s behavior.
This explanation is based on the intuitions of the angry person who experiences a loss in self-monitoring capacity and the lack of objective observation, thus resulting this emotion.
People can feel angry for many reasons in which most may view them as something negative like being offended. However when anger is viewed as a protective response or instinct to a perceived threat, it can be considered as positive.
According to Leland R. Beaumont, each instance of anger demands making a choice. A person can respond with hostile action, including overt violence, or they can respond with hostile inaction, such as withdrawing or stonewalling.
Other options include initiating a dominance contest; harboring resentment; or working to better understand and constructively resolve the issue. Now, let’s see what option would our Hot Pink Buddies use in order to resolve their anger issue.
I guess they are going to the movie after all, isn’t that sweet!
I’ve to admit that at times we just cannot help but to get angry over certain things or person. Whenever I get angry and blew things up, I tend to get very angry with myself for not able to control my anger and this feeling really sucks.
Whenever I am about to get really angry (especially dealing with confrontations), I would remind myself of that “bad aftertaste” so as to calm myself down in order to choose settling or ignoring the issue instead of crying over spilt milk.
If all you lovely souls have any stories/encounters about overcoming anger that you wish to share with us, do feel free to pen them down in the comment box below.